The Mountain and the Tree

The Mountain and the Tree

When a man finally realizes he has been operating without boundaries, when he is utterly exhausted from people-pleasing, managing everyone else’s emotions, and swallowing his own truth, he usually makes a massive overcorrection. He decides he is done being a...
Staying in the Fire

Staying in the Fire

During the container in Costa Rica, the men stepped into the Temazcal. For those who have never experienced a traditional sweat lodge, it is not a sauna meant for relaxation. It is pitch black. The stones are blazing. The heat is heavy, oppressive, and entirely...
The Mirror Of The Pack

The Mirror Of The Pack

  There is a massive lie we tell ourselves about what it takes to heal, to grow, or to change. We believe it has to be a solo mission. The default male instinct when things get heavy is to withdraw. You isolate. You put your head down, read the books, listen to...
“That’s Just How I Am”

“That’s Just How I Am”

One of the heaviest lies a man can carry is the belief that his reactions are simply a fixed part of his personality. You have probably said it yourself, or at least thought it after an argument. You snap at your partner, you withdraw completely when you feel...
The Myth of the Angry Man

The Myth of the Angry Man

Most men who believe they have an anger problem are entirely misdiagnosing the root of their own volatility. If you find yourself constantly irritable, snapping at the people you love over completely insignificant things, or carrying a low-level rage that hums just...