Emotional Ledger

Emotional Ledger

You work the long hours, handle the heavy mortgage, and pay for the family vacation. You take immense pride in being the guy who makes it all happen. But pay attention to how you act once the vacation actually starts. You sit on the periphery. You check emails, scroll...
“When Things Slow Down”

“When Things Slow Down”

Listen to yourself over the next week. Pay attention to how many times you tell your partner, your kids, or yourself that you just need to get through this current sprint. “Once we get past this quarter at work.” “Once the kids are a little...
On Brotherhood

On Brotherhood

Scroll through your phone right now and look at the text threads with the guys you consider your closest friends. For most of us, those conversations have become completely hollowed out. They are an endless, superficial stream of forwarded videos, sports predictions,...
Competing Against the Ghost

Competing Against the Ghost

Most of us are walking around in quiet competition with a ghost. We carry a mental snapshot of a very specific version of ourselves: the untethered guy we were in our early twenties, the athlete before the injuries piled up, or the fiercely independent kid who had...
Emotional Ledger

Closing the Loops

  Most of the exhaustion we feel on a Friday evening has nothing to do with the actual physical or mental labor we performed that week. If we audit our energy, we usually find that we are exhausted from the sheer amount of bandwidth required to keep track of all...