Our Emotional Survival

Our Emotional Survival

We pride ourselves on being self-reliant in almost every area of our lives, but most of us have a massive, glaring blind spot when it comes to our emotional survival. If we look closely at how we operate, our partner is usually the only person on earth who truly knows...
Receiving the Torch

Receiving the Torch

There is a very specific, quiet moment in adulthood when we look around the room and realize we are no longer the kids at the table. We spend our twenties and thirties building our own lives, but we usually do it with a psychological safety net. Even after we sign the...
The Maintenance Phase of Adulthood

The Maintenance Phase of Adulthood

When we are younger, life is defined by massive milestones. We are constantly building. We are chasing the career, finding the partner, securing the house, and trying to get our feet underneath us. Every year brings a massive, noticeable shift in the landscape of our...
Exhaustion Disguised as Anger

Exhaustion Disguised as Anger

We are culturally conditioned to express a very narrow range of emotions, and for most of us, the most acceptable default is frustration. When you snap at your kids for being too loud, or you lose your temper over a misplaced set of car keys, it rarely has anything to...
The Cost of Silent Boundaries

The Cost of Silent Boundaries

Someone asks you to take on an extra project at work, or your partner asks you to handle a heavy logistical task on your only day off. You are already completely exhausted. Your bandwidth is entirely tapped out. But instead of stating that reality, you just swallow...
The Quiet Victory of a Reliable Man

The Quiet Victory of a Reliable Man

We spend so much time chasing the monumental moments. We are conditioned to measure our worth by the massive milestones: the promotions, the big financial wins, the heavy burdens we managed to carry through a crisis, or the rare moments we step in to save the day. We...