Emotional Ledger

Emotional Ledger

You work the long hours, handle the heavy mortgage, and pay for the family vacation. You take immense pride in being the guy who makes it all happen. But pay attention to how you act once the vacation actually starts. You sit on the periphery. You check emails, scroll...
On Brotherhood

On Brotherhood

Scroll through your phone right now and look at the text threads with the guys you consider your closest friends. For most of us, those conversations have become completely hollowed out. They are an endless, superficial stream of forwarded videos, sports predictions,...
Our Emotional Survival

Our Emotional Survival

We pride ourselves on being self-reliant in almost every area of our lives, but most of us have a massive, glaring blind spot when it comes to our emotional survival. If we look closely at how we operate, our partner is usually the only person on earth who truly knows...
Staying in the Fire

Staying in the Fire

During the container in Costa Rica, the men stepped into the Temazcal. For those who have never experienced a traditional sweat lodge, it is not a sauna meant for relaxation. It is pitch black. The stones are blazing. The heat is heavy, oppressive, and entirely...
The Mirror Of The Pack

The Mirror Of The Pack

  There is a massive lie we tell ourselves about what it takes to heal, to grow, or to change. We believe it has to be a solo mission. The default male instinct when things get heavy is to withdraw. You isolate. You put your head down, read the books, listen to...